Miscarriage is a common thing that many women experience. That does not mean that the pain is not real. When you lose an unborn child, there doesn’t seem to be a lot of help to handle the loss. Here are some things you can do when you experience the trauma of miscarriage.
Talk to People You Trust
A lot of people chose to keep their pregnancy a secret until the second trimester. Since miscarriages are so common, a lot of people will wait to be sure they will carry the child. Believe me, it is difficult to have people who didn’t get the news of your loss ask you how the pregnancy is going.
If you have waited to share the news with others, now is the time to share it with people you trust. This is not something you want to ignore and pretend like it didn’t happen.
Even if you haven’t shared your pregnancy with your family and closest friends, you will need to share the miscarriage. That is part of the process of dealing with the mourning. You need support from those that love you.
Take Time to Mourn
Sometimes, we want to rush the mourning process so we can hurry up and get back to life as usual. Whether it is a pressure we feel because of the culture, or we just don’t want to think about it, it is important that you mourn.
Truly cry over your losses. If you have a relationship with the baby’s father, spend time crying with him. It is important that you both take time together to bond after the loss.
Find a Way to Memorialize Your Baby
Depending on how far along you were, you will likely have no remains. That doesn’t mean you can’t find a way to memorialize your baby.
You can plant flowers in honor of your child. Maybe put a special rock with a symbol out in your yard. Hang an ornament on the tree that represents the life. Whatever you chose to do, be sure to remember your lost child from year to year.
Continue to Live Your Life
So often, when tragedy strikes, we feel paralyzed. That is ok for a period of time, but at some point you must pick up and carry on. When you lose your baby, be sure mourn for the life, find a way to remember them, but then carry on.
Some women find it hard to think of getting pregnant again. They are worried that the next pregnancy will end like the first. The best thing to do is try again if you want to have a child or more children. You can’t guarantee you won’t miscarry again, but there is nothing to say you will.