I have 3 wonderful boys. To say that my life changed radically after the first one was born is an understatement. If you have children, then you know what I’m talking about.
I can remember getting in bed at the end of the day and wanting to just cover up my head and go to sleep. All day long, I had kids hanging off of me and using my body as their personal jungle gym. It was really hard to want to connect with my husband, because I had given everything I had.
Even though it is hard to make your spouse a priority after the kids arrive, it is so important. Here are some of the ways that I have found to make my husband a priority.Keep Kids Out Of Our Bed
I’m not saying this will work for everyone, but I have never let the kids get in my bed. It isn’t that I don’t love them, but I have kept our bed off limits.
If the kids needs comfort because they are sick, I go into their room. If they have had a bad dream, I’ll sit beside them at their bed. I’m not going to make my marriage bed a free for all.Send Kids To Bed on Time
It is amazing how quickly bedtime can sneak up on you. All of a sudden, it can become a mad dash to get the kids to bed. By the time you get them settled, you feel exhausted and want to go to sleep.
With the right amount of planning, you can get them in bed and have time with your husband after. If you push bedtimes too late, then you and your spouse won’t have the time together that you need.Initiate Sex
Like I said, I could feel like I was a jungle gym for my kids all day. It could make sex difficult at night, because I would be ready for bed. I found that if I would initiate sex, things when much better for us. This way, I was mentally prepared and had the time to make the shift happen.
It can be hard to initiate sex if you aren’t used to it, but it gets much easier with time.Go on Dates
Whether you can afford a sitter or not, you should make dating a priority. I have done many at home date nights with my husband. Just make sure you keep the same rules at home at night that you would have if you go out on a date.
It is important to keep your relationship going with your spouse. One day, the kids will be full grown and gone. You want to be sure you have a relationship left.